TV Star Explores Painful Divorce in New Memoir: ‘PhD in Pain’
In her latest memoir, Sarah Shahi candidly explores her painful divorce from fellow actor Steve Howey. The couple, who ended their marriage in 2020 after 11 years, shares three children: William, 16, and twins Knox and Violet, 10.
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Published on January 27, Shahi’s memoir offers a raw reflection on her personal struggles. She describes moments in her marriage where she felt overwhelmed by her responsibilities. In one poignant statement, Shahi expressed frustration over her ex-husband taking on “more damn work” than their children.
A Journey of Self-Discovery
Shahi views the divorce process as transformational, stating it granted her “a PhD in pain.” She detailed the moment she signed the final divorce papers, likening it to having “a piano dropped on my heart.” This stark imagery captures the emotional weight of her experience.
- Shahi reported feeling intense emotions when she first communicated her desire to end the marriage, saying it took ten years to express: “I finally love myself more.”
- Despite the heartache, Shahi does not consider her divorce a failure. She highlights the importance of having the courage to let go when a relationship is out of sync.
Co-Parenting and Moving Forward
Shahi maintains a positive relationship with Howey, emphasizing their strong co-parenting dynamic. “I was in a relationship for 18 years and have three beautiful kids,” she remarked, reflecting on their shared history. “It is by every definition a success to me.”
Life After Divorce
Following her separation, Shahi dated Adam Demos, her co-star from the series “Sex/Life.” She acknowledged the complexities of dating someone from her professional circle, noting how public relationships can amplify emotional experiences.
- Shahi shared that the emotional fallout from the breakup felt magnified because it resonated on both personal and public levels.
- Both Shahi and Howey continue to thrive in their respective careers, with Shahi currently starring in the Hulu political thriller “Paradise.”
- Howey appears in the ABC series “High Potential,” where he plays Nick Wagner.
Shahi’s memoir serves as a powerful testament to her journey through personal struggles and growth post-divorce. It illustrates the importance of self-love and resilience, resonating with many who have experienced similar challenges.
